7-day Doubt Diet Day 3: Trigger Points #Renee Swope

 

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  Food for thought: The LORD turned to him and said, “Go in the strength you have .… Am I not sending you?” (Judges 6:14 NIV)

 

On Day 3 Renee beings by asking, “Maybe you’ve sensed God leading you to participate in a ministry, but doubt has convinced you that you’re not smart enough or gifted enough. Perhaps you wanted to have kids, and now you have a family but you doubt you really have what it takes to be a good mom. Or maybe you’ve wanted to change jobs and now have the opportunity to do just that. But you don’t want to go because you’re afraid of failing at something new.

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Then she turns to a story in the bible about Gideon, from Judges chapter 6.  His doubts and insecurities told him that he wasn’t anointed, God didn’t call him, there was a mistake he would fail.  As you read the chapter you see that he begins to make progress as he changes his thoughts to reflect God’s thoughts.

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Then, life happened and Gideon faced a conflict and defeat.  He didn’t believe that he was the warrior that God said he was.  Instead he believed,“But how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family” (Judges 6:15).  The angel of the Lord said he was a great warrior and Gideon tel  Why would he struggle when the angel of the Lord is standing in front of him?  His past spoke louder than the promise of his future.

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Hurts, insecurities and broken dreams from our past have a powerful influence over our thought life.  We have a filter in our mind that has been shaped by our life experience.  Everthing we hear has to go through that filter before it reaches our ears.  Recognizing those things that trigger our emotions is the focus of todays devotion.

 

I began to ask myself what negative emotions do I experience the most.  It didn’t take but a second for insecurity to raise it’s ugly head.

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Those of you who don’t know me, I am six foot tall.   When I was a little girl people called me BIG BIRD, and it wasn’t meant as a compliment.  I desperatly wanted to shrink so no one would notice me .  I was so tall for my age people would say things like, “My, you are tall.  Do you think you’ve stopped growing yet.”  “You are two heads taller than so and so, aw she’s so cute look at her and her cute little feet isn’t she a doll.”

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At school on picture day I always knew what was coming, “Oh dear, honey you need to get in the very back you are so much taller than everyone else, even the boys.  My Lord, that’s right keep backing up.  Just as far back as you can go.”

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What good is a 6ft tall teenager who doesn’t have an athletic bone in her body.  I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard,”I bet you play basketball don’t you.  You’re so tall, of course you do how silly of me to ask.”  I hated PE class, especially when we played basketball.  My PE coach in Middle school was particuarly hard on me.   One day as we were playing basketball,she screamed at me for missing a shot, “Knight (my maiden name) you should be better than that.  You are 6 foot tall how did you miss it.”

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I got the ultimate confidence booster when I was in the 10th grade.  I made the varsity cheerleading squad in the 9th grade.  I had hoped that I’d graduate from BIG BIRD status to one of the cool girls.  I remember walking into class after the bell rang and seeing a picture of a girl drawn on the desk in a cheerleading uniform.  Her legs looked like a giraffe – with the words “how did she make it” scribbled out to the side.  Yes, they were referring to me and I began to ask myself the same question.  The next year I didn’t even try out.

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Now, I’m all grown up and you know what, I hate sports.  I haven’t thought about those situations in years.   I don’t have to they are engrained in me as truth now.

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Like Renee, my insecurities and fears have kept me from trying things.  You want me to go hiking, no thanks.  A climbing wall – fantastic everyone below can laugh at me while I’m suspended in midair with nothing but ropes and my long legs tangled in the rope.  When my kids ask my to play basketball or softball – I start to panic inside.  No!!  I don’t want to.  I don’t want them to see how bad I am.  My husband played golf in college. (Yes, I married an athlete – good in every sport) He would love if we golfed together.  In December we’ll celebrate our 15th anniversary and guess what, my doubts have convinced me not to try.

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In Chapter 1 of “A Confident Heart,”  Renee shares what God revealed to her after he spoke to her about her “shadow of doubt”.  She said, ” As I stood there in my bathroom, I knew I needed to get honest with God too. I needed more than just a quick fix. I wanted to figure out what triggered my self-doubts.”

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Damaged emotions and insecurities from our past have a powerful influence over how we see ourselves today.  Do you see a pattern of doubts or insecurity that is rooted in your past. 

   

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A Message from Renee
Excerpt from The 7-day Doubt Diet:  Day 3

Conflict, criticism, and comparison are three triggers that lead me into that yucky place of uncertainty……

When I find myself standing in the shadow of doubt, I ask Jesus to show me what triggered my emotions. Then I process that trigger point through the filter of God’s perspective and promises. I ask Him to show me what lie I believe that needs to be replaced with His truth. I then ask Him to change the way I’m thinking, which changes the way I’m feeling, and eventually transforms the way I’m living.

Over time, I’ve learned to rely on God’s power to defeat my insecurities, which has empowered me to fulfill His calling on my life. And so can you! God calls us to live beyond the shadows our doubts, but it is not always about what He wants us to do as much as it is about what He wants to do in us as we learn to completely depend on Him.

Doubt Diet Tip:In the same way emotional triggers make us want to eat a half-gallon of ice cream or a whole bag of chips, we have emotional triggers that cause us to doubt ourselves. Ask God to show you your most common triggers and help you process them through the filter of His truth.

A “New Creation Makeover” – I’m game how about you?

.I (Kasey) am going to go ahead and warn you – this might get ugly.  First, I’m gonna be brutally honest about myself and second this is going to be a really long post.   I don’t have it all together, not even close.  I’ve got all kinds of  junk – issues – situations whatever you want to call it that I deal with, and an abundant supply.  However, hands down THE BIGGIE is that I am extremely insecure and afraid of being criticized or made fun of.

The first time Kelly and I were on TV, I thought I would surely die.  Not because I didn’t know what to say – I talk more than 5 girls put together.  No – I was terrified that by “putting myself out there,”  hundreds maybe thousands of people would criticize, and make fun of me. Even worse, with today’s technology the opportunities are endless - rewind, pause, record… uh-huh and watch it over and over again.  Not only was I putting myself in a very vulnerable position, but one that could be revisited any number of times after the fact.

Sounds silly, I’m sure, to many people – but very real to me.  It wasn’t cool being the only 6ft tall chick at school, and mu nickname “Big Bird” wasn’t meant to be flattering.  I’m sure no one else has crazy insecurities and fears right?  Like my friend Kristin for example -a Godly wife, mom to 5 children, the kindest person I have ever met, she has the  most beautiful blue eyes and I am certain her house is always spotless.  I admire her, look up to her, I think she’s “supermom.”

This week she started a blog, which surprised me because I just knew in all her free time she played special games with her kids and read them books all day.  As I began to read, I quickly realized she doesn’t have it all together and she’s not afraid to admit it.  I’d like to introduce you to my friend Kristin, a precious woman willing to bare her soul on a purposeful journey to a total makeover….from the inside – out!  (For the record…..I still think she’s the “stuff,” no matter what she says)

Is there anything in your life that you want to change. Something you have said you were going to do or have even started but quit. Do you want to get in shape, get healthy, get organized, get closer to God, start drinking more water, get control of your finances, or if you are a new mom. . .even a goal to shower every day is a good goal! LOL!

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{Part 4} Couponing at 18: Elizabeth’s Journey

If you didn’t read the first little installment - go HERE, and the second one is HERE.

Merry Christmas!!!!!

Thank you once again for all of your comments. They are really helping to find the best strategy for shopping.

However, I wanted to do this blog a little differently. I have been talking to a lot of people and asking them if they are excited for Christmas. Most of the time the answer I got was that they weren’t really excited for Christmas.  They are stressed about all of the presents they need to buy and they want to get everyone the perfect present.  So, I have decided to remind everyone what the true reason for the season is.

It is is about the birth of the one who saved us all from eternal damnation. God loves us so much that He sent his only son to die for our sins. I know I am not worthy for this present God gave to me.  So, I am going to celebrate the best gift I could have ever received on Christmas. The birth of my Savior.  Praise be to God!  Merry Christmas, and I wish you and your families the very best Christmas!  Luke 2:1-14

Your thrifty friend,
Elizabeth

{Part 3} Couponing at 18: Elizabeth’s Journey

Here’s a different take on couponing that you don’t hear about often!

If you didn’t read the first little installment - go HERE, and the second one is HERE.

Hey it’s Elizabeth again…. I just wanted to start out again by saying thank you so much for your comments. They really helped!!!!

This time I looked at this website before making a list.  That helped so much!!!!!! I felt like they had made a cheat sheet for me!  After writing my list of what I was going to buy, I gathered all of my coupons and put them in a pencil pouch holder. I arrived at Bi-Lo and I felt a little overwhelmed. However, I figured out that if I stick to my list I don’t feel as overwhelmed.

I got all of my items and went to the check out line. I was very excited to see all of my hard work put into action. Then she handed me the receipt. The orginal price was $118.16 and the price that I paid was $48.33!!!!!!!!!!!!   I was so excited that I did a dance in the middle of Bi-Lo.  Stay tuned for next week savings.

Your thrifty friend,

Elizabeth

{Part 2} Couponing at 18: Elizabeth’s Journey

Here’s a different take on couponing that you don’t hear about often!

If you didn’t read the first little installment - go HERE.

I just wanted to start out by saying thank you to everyone who left a comment. I really appreciated the kind words!

Now, I would like to tell you a little about my very first experience using coupons. I was looking through all of my ads and I found an ad for Dawn dish detergent, and it was FREE.  I was so excited that I decided to leave the house at 9 p.m. to go and pick up my free detergent.  I arrived at CVS very excited to have found my first deal.  When I went in to pick my free detergent I found many other deals with my coupons. I checked out and decided to look at the Walgreens ad.  That’s when I realized that some of the items I picked up were cheaper there.  I felt SO SAD!

I went home and told my parents I wasted their money. They gave me a hug, and told me that I still saved a good bit of money, and I will save even more with experience. I am not going to give up, and I am going to do better next time! Stay tuned for next week, and I will fill you in on my progress in the coupon world.

Your thrifty friend,

Elizabeth Clayton

*New Feature* Couponing at 18: Elizabeth’s Journey

Here’s a different take on couponing that you don’t hear about often!

We’d like to introduce you to a new regular feature you’ll be seeing on Time2Save. I want to let our guest do most of the talking – so I won’t say much, save that we met her just recently and she is such a sweet blessing of a young woman we asked her to share with you. We’d like to bring her into your lives in a small way each week – as she takes us on a journey with her.

Hey everyone, my name is Elizabeth and I am so excited to be able to share with you.

I am eighteen years old, a full time college student, and I work.   However, family comes first for me. This is why I decided to find a way to help my parents out. Like almost everyone my parents are struggling financially and every little bit helps. I learned about a coupon seminar from my sister-in-law and I thought this would be a great way to help out.

I arrived at the coupon seminar very excited, because I knew this would be an amazing chance to help my parents save money. I learned that it is possible to save hundreds of dollars monthly by using coupons. Which to me is so amazing!!! Okay, I’m off to try what I have learned so far. Wish me luck!  Thank you for reading my blog, and I will keep you posted on my journey through the couponing world.

Your thrifty friend,

Elizabeth