Debby McCuiston, the “Queen of Clutter-Free”, does a segment for us each Sunday on simplifying our lives, getting rid of “clutter”, and focusing on what’s important. We look forward to her words of wisdom each week & hope you enjoy it too! Take it away Debby….
This week I have spent time weeding through my closet again! Now to most of you this does not sound like fun but for me it is an outward sign of progress. My beautiful daughter came up to visit for a few hours and since she was here I decided to tackle the closet while I had her expert fashion opinion.
If you have been “weight challenged” for as many years as I have (about 30 years), I found that I was stuck in a fashion time warp. Fashion for someone that has fought with their weight is not usually trend setting, it boils down to the simplest decision of picking color and pattern for your outfit. At times it can resemble a circus tent. The last time I can remember wearing something I really felt pretty in and that fit my body was during the college and pre-baby days. Good thing…those are the styles that are popular again. My daughter serves as my fashion police because I don’t want to appear to be reliving my “good ole’ days” with short skits and tight shirts. Neither do I want to look like I am ready for a shuffleboard game at the retirement home in Florida. Somewhere in between would be fun. Who ever thought fashion would be this hard?
If you are like me you have saved pieces of clothing you loved but could no longer wear because you are still carrying around the “baby weight” (problem is my baby is 28 yrs. old) hoping to get back in them. Since I began this weight loss process, I have been able to give those up to make room for the clothes I bought to wear when I hit my goal. The old clothes have been the bench mark I used to see the changes in my body. Since I am very visual, this helped more than seeing the numbers change on the scale. Some of my smaller clothes have been worn once or twice since I have reached that point. I don’t think I have ever been as happy as the day I was able to drop the old clothes in the giveaway pile. I keep a bag handy in my closet for just that purpose. When I first started on this weight lose journey, I was so afraid to let go of the things I could no longer wear because I kept asking myself “what if I don’t lose the weight this time”? I found that safety net was holding me back and there is freedom in being able to let things go. It also confirms that I am making progress and my mindset is changing.
I have a stash of clothes that I had bought my daughter during her college days. Since she didn’t wear them any longer, I packed them away with the promise that I will wear them someday. Well, that day is finally here, because yesterday I unpacked the last 2 tubs of her clothes. They are washing as I am typing. Of course, since I have been doing pretty well on this journey, it has inspired her to start her own journey. The only problem is she now wants those clothes back. So, the rule is…the first one to lose enough weight to get into them gets them, with the promise to pass them on as soon as the other one needs them.
During this week’s closet purging, I was able to get rid of 7 garbage bags full of clothes. Some that I have never worn. Needless to say, I was very happy to pass along to friends and family that are fighting this same battle but also hate to spend money on those transition clothes. These goodies will fit them until it’s time to move them along to the next person. Now that’s the way to recycle and save some money!
I still struggle with the fact that I have lost 70 pounds but still see myself as the women of 2 years ago. The picture that still runs through my head is one taken at Christmas about 10 yrs ago. I felt and dressed like I had given up and that attitude was reflected in everything I did, said and put in my mouth. I may not always be able to see past those days but the thing I can say has changed the most is my “can-do” attitude. I know I can do this; I can fight to win this battle because I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME!
Since I have started this journey I have come to realize that taking care of me is of the utmost importance. I cannot stress this enough to all of you! As moms, wives, daughters, caregivers and working women we must take the time to make our health a priority. So many of us are to the point of running on empty because we give all day – every day without eating the right food, sleeping enough hours and getting the exercise we need to stay fit and strong. Before long we get so tired we give up and only manage to get one foot in front of the other each day. This is not how God intended for us to live the life he gave us, just barely breathing.
The 2 main things I make sure I do every year are to get a physical and get a mammogram…neither of which I love to do. But they are important and it is always easier to prevent bad health if you keep a check on it.
I am excited to share with you that when I went for my physical last week, my doctor said I have lost enough weight that I can have the surgery to remove the extra skin around my belly area. I meet with the surgeon on June 19th and if insurance approves it, hopefully within the next few weeks I will be much closer to my goal.
Words cannot express how grateful I am for the encouragement of my family. My sweet husband has been my best cheerleader…always helping me anyway he could. Thank you sweet Jesus for blessing me with this Godly man who sees my need to be a woman who wants her outside to reflect what is on the inside and supports me much more than I could have dreamed of.
I am so thankful to the readers that have shared the battles that you are fighting and have been such a sweet encouragement to me on this journey. You have truly blessed my heart and many times have kept me going – just one more step. Thank you!!!!
Make this a week of NO EXCUSES! & NO REGRETS!
Love you to Jesus!