Debby McCuiston, the “Queen of Clutter-Free”, does a segment for us each Sunday on simplifying our lives, getting rid of “clutter”, and focusing on what’s important. We look forward to her words of wisdom each week & hope you enjoy it too! Take it away Debby….
Since it’s the start of yet another year, it is time to make a few changes. I don’t really do the whole New Year’s resolution thing, because all I wind up doing is lying to myself and setting unrealistic goals for myself, then within about 2 or 3 weeks wind up with a guilt complex that will last the rest of the year.
So this year I thought I would approach the New Year from a new angle, “What do I need to do to make this the best year yet?”
I wanted to make this the year I set some goals for myself and had to plan to make them into a reality. So over the last few weeks I have taken a look at where I want to be this time next year and what it will take to get there. I have come to realize that you can have dreams but without a vision to see where you want to go you fail to make that dream a reality.
As I thought about this the main question that kept rising to the surface was what will it take to make ME happy? First I had to decide what the picture of happy looks like for me; to me it comes down to being successful at the goals I set for myself. I found this to be very true because the things that make me unhappy are the things that I have failed to follow thru on. So with that as my main goal for this up and coming year I was able to come up with a doable list for 2012.
As a mother and a Christian we have been told that we must put others first at all times. We put our kids first, our husbands first, neighbors, strangers, stray dogs, sad cats, whom ever or whatever happens to cross our path we believe must come first. It doesn’t matter the toll it takes on our physical or mental health, we just keep going, believing it to be the “cross we must carry”. It has gotten to be the measure of our spiritual walk. So to appear to be “spiritual” we burn the candle at both ends, doing it all, all the time for everyone. Really? Do we really believe that the God that loves us so much and created us for His glory measures our love for Him by how much we do? Yes, we are to live a life serving others and should have a servants heart, but not to the point that we lose our focus and our health.
So many of us are sick and tired of being sick and tired! It’s because the plans that we believe God has for us require us to be all things to all people! NOT TRUE! In reality that sounds like an ego out of control, we believe we must fix every problem for all the people in our lives. That’s not our job; we are to be a willing vessel to be used by God allowing Him to mold us to be a usable vessel. But we think we can take on the role of the master carpenter, no longer following the plan but making the plan for our life and those around us. Wow! How did things get so out of whack? I believe that Satan’s goal is to get us off track, not off by much, just enough we lose our focus and get so busy that we aren’t doing what we are called to do, it becomes a competition to the point we burn our self out and end up on the heap of burnt out, do nothing ever again Christians.
I want to finish well!! So this year I am looking at the job I am called to do and how to best carry that out with my sanity in tack. So I have come up with a few goals:
- To eat healthy and treat my physical body as a gift that I can offer up to God for service.
- To become a strong woman physically, mentally and spiritually
- To understand that taking care of myself is NOT selfish or unchristian
- To get enough sleep, giving my body time to rest and heal
- To spend time in His word, to feed my soul
- To exercise daily to have a healthy body so that I can encourage others by setting a good example. That means sticking to the exercise plan every day no matter if I feel like it or not!
- To not allow others into my life that’s single purpose in this life is to be negative and unproductive.
- To do nice things for myself each day. This is not selfish, this is about teaching me allow myself to be valued and loved. Others treat us, like we treat our self and how we allow others to treat us. Would you allow your children to be treated like you treat yourself?
- To be proud of the progress I am making no matter how big or small. We cannot give to others what we do not have ourselves. If we want to give encouragement, we must set up a plan to encourage our self as we see progress and growth toward our goals.
- To declutter my home by only keeping items that add value and beauty to my life and family.
- To take time each day to invest in the lives of the people that God places in my life and to understand that my job is not to save the world.(that has already been done by my heavenly Father)
- To rest in the knowledge that God is in control and He does not need my advice or approval of His plan. (I know—Surprise!!)
- To live this life knowing that it is a journey not a sprint! Take time to enjoy the view!
- To live with intention, not just let life happen to me but to be ready and watching for opportunities to let God work thru me
- To love the Lord my God with all my heart, soul and mind! Then loving my family as an outward expression of the love my heavenly Father has for me. To graciously except His unmerited love even though I do not deserve it and cannot earn it.
I look forward to working this year to make each of these goals a reality! Let’s start this year off with a plan that will allow us to see progress and growth. Declutter one small space each day, that’s progress! Ready, Set, Go! into the new year with purpose and intention.
Bless others as you have been blessed!!